How To Overcome Mom Guilt

How To Overcome Mom Guilt

Mom guilt is a phenomenon felt my most mothers. It’s the feeling of never being able to fulfill your duty as a mom to your children. Kids have a way of letting us know when they feel let down, even if it’s for their own good or if you have a good excuse. They don’t mean to, but we feel the disappointment. Mom guilt also causes us to ignore our own self-care because we feel we aren’t deserving of it. Here are a few ways you can overcome mom guilt.


The biggest distraction these days is screen time for both you and your littles. Mom guilt festers when we feel the time we do spend with our children is not “quality”. The easiest way to avoid that is to remove distractions from your environment. Put aside screen-free time for you and your family so you can enjoy family time the old fashioned way.

Be Realistic

Mom guilt can show her ugly face when you feel you can’t spread yourself far enough. Parenting perfection is impossible. We will never be able to make it to every sports game on time or chaperone every school outing. That’s okay because that’s not realistic. Understand what you can realistically accomplish and be satisfied with that. Be honest with your kids when you drop the ball and make mistakes. They will love you for it.

Don’t Compare Yourself to Other Moms

We see super mama who always looks great at the school drop off line. She has her kids in daily extracurriculars and still manages to make home cooked meals every night. It’s easy to feel like crap when you compare yourself to others. Remember that your best might not look the same as someone else’s and that’s totally fine! You don’t love your kids any less than she loves hers. Your kids will still have a fighting chance at becoming kind, intelligent, world changing adults.

Laugh it Off

The hashtag #momfail reminds us we are perfectly imperfect, along with so many other mamas out there. Be human and laugh at your mom brain moments. Find a tribe to share your less than perfect moments with. Know that you’re not alone in this crazy journey we call motherhood.

One thing we want you to remind you of, mama, is that you’re doing a GREAT job being your littles’ mamabear.  No one else can do your job better than you’re doing it right now.

Melissa Dessaulles

Melissa is a pelvic health physiotherapist at Wave Physiotherapy in Kelowna, BC. She is an active mom of 2 young kids. Her own experiences with post partum recovery have made her passionate about helping other moms.

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