30 Aug How to Talk About Your Mom Body Confidently
Let’s talk about how to talk about your mom body confidently.
Your mom body has gone through a lot. You’ve worked through the changes of pregnancy, followed by the strains of labour and delivery (vaginal or via cesarean), AND the recovery and postpartum challenges.
You’re made for this
When you really stop to think about it, over the course of a year our bodies have stretched, pushed, and retracted. Your mom body is an incredible thing. We know we’re doing Mother Nature’s good work, yet it’s natural to feel put-off by this new body. A new shape, new hormones, and yes–if delivered vaginally–a new vagina! To truly appreciate what a masterpiece your mom body is, you need to understand the changes your body has undergone.
In addition to feeling confident in your own skin, you need to be able to speak about all the ins and outs of what’s happening below the belt. Learn to use the right words and foster your biological understanding. There’s no shame in what you experience in your body as a mother. Understanding the what and why’s of your mom parts will empower you to speak about your body confidently. Inspire you to take care of yourself so you’re feeling your best.
This is the foundation of Mommy Berries. By educating mamas on these changes in your body, we aspire to give you the tools you need to strengthen your pelvic floor postpartum. This is the purpose of our online pelvic health program, From The Inside Out.
Mom body confidence tips
Keep reading for five tips to help you talk about your mom body confidently.
1. Call it what it is
Cute names like va-jay-jay, don’t fly. Let’s call it what it is–vagina. Your vagina is a body part just like your heart, elbow, or ear. Say its name loud and proud. She is the canal that brought a human into this world and she deserves to be recognized and celebrated. She also deserves to be cared for just as you would care for an injury. This starts with being able to say her name without shame.
2. Learn about your mom body
Spend time learning about your body, specifically your core, pelvic floor, and vagina. Knowledge is power! Learning about what goes with your pelvic health will keep you in tune with your body and how it’s feeling. A better understanding of your biology will help you to express your symptoms accurately to your doctor or healthcare worker. You could start by reading some of our other blog posts written by Melissa Dessaulles, our very own pelvic health physiotherapist.
- Ins and Outs of the Core
- Understanding Constipation: What’s the hold-up?
- Disconnected from your Vagina after Delivery?
3. Be honest with your partner
You pass a whole new threshold of your relationship when your partner witnesses delivery and the days following. Actually, let’s be honest, leading up to delivery too. Raise your hand if you had awkward conversations about gas with your significant other during your pregnancy! It’s important to keep your partner in the loop with how you’re feeling. Especially, with postpartum sex. It can be very painful at first and being able to have this conversation with your partner will help you get past it. Melissa talks a bit more about understanding sex after baby in this blog post.
In addition to postpartum sex, it’s important your partner is aware of hormonal changes, physical changes, and symptoms. Then they can help you navigate possible solutions. Being able to speak openly about your body is so important to keep your loved one in the loop. It also helps them to speak about your body confidently too.
4. Be inspired by body confident moms
Depending on many factors, your body may or may not bounce back to its pre-baby form. And that’s totally ok. In fact, it’s expected. This can be hard to come to terms with. Despite your best efforts, often the stretched loose skin, tiger-like stretch marks, and extra weight gain remain. The key is to accept this reality. How do we do that? We find inspiration from other body-confident mothers. Moms who talk openly and truthfully about their own experiences and challenges will help you realize, you’re not alone.
We highly recommend these women (both mamas and not) who inspire us with their body-positive Instagram feeds. And if you need a bit more camaraderie, check out these beautiful portraits of real moms and their postpartum mom bodies on The Honest Body Project.
5. Find your mom tribe
The internet is really an amazing place to bring like-minded people together. It’s not hard to find mom groups on Facebook because moms tend to seek out a community of women in a similar situation as their own. Mom Facebook groups are perfect for questions about baby, sharing experiences and resources, and making mom friends. Being able to speak openly in a judgment-free zone to get answers to your questions is invaluable. Or, to simply vent about your feelings as a new mom who is experiencing all the joys and challenges of motherhood for the first time.
Find a group that suits you. Look for groups that are smaller and more intimate and have some specific lifestyle parameters that interest you like “organic mom” or local to your neighbourhood. When you find your mom tribe, you’ll know. Hopefully, you’ll be able to talk about your strange new mom bodies truthfully and confidently.
Feel your best
So, why do we want you to be able to talk about your mom body with confidence? Because we want you to feel your best. Your mom body takes on a lot during pregnancy and into birth and we know you’re wondering “is this normal?” when you experience pains and unusual symptoms below the belt. We want you to be able to ask the uncomfortable questions and find a solution so you can feel like your best self. So, let’s talk about it! Comment and ask anything about your mom body.